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Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on their wedding day: “ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.” -and keeping God in the center of it all!

There has been a lot of debate whether adult toys are deemed acceptable to use in a Christian marriage and if they are sound for the Christian intimate relationship. They can be a healthy addition to any relationship, within reason.

Here are some guidelines for using toys in a relationship:

1. Safety. All toys, whether it be for children or adults, need to be safe for usage. The purpose is to add or compliment pleasure, not to inflict any unnecessary harm. This of course wouldn’t be the intention with the Christian couple, but it’s important to be sure a toy does not pose any noticeable accidental harm or danger to yourself or your Christian partner.

2. Toys to Avoid. Avoid any sex toy resembling or mimicking that of another person, figure, or representing such. There are toys present which will resemble, say for instance, a popular celebrity figure. (example: rabbit vibrator)

3. Toys you can use. Don’t fret, there are a lot of toys you can use. These include a wide variety of lotions, lubes, erotic oils and fragrances, and even various erotic foods, syrups, frosting, or other sweet flavorings. Make or create your own safe and sound toy, such as a tickler pillow or erotic massage pleaser and teaser.

Marriage is hard work. It takes more than love to keep a marriage alive, strong and exciting. The biggest enemy I think in any marriage, aside from money issues, is familiarity. When your marriage or your spouse becomes too familiar with you, it becomes boring and then the spark dies.

How do keep the magic in a marriage?

1. Have your own interests.

You cannot have anything interesting to say if you spend every waking moment doing and experiencing the same things. Having independent interests is not a sign of a weak marriage, as some newlyweds believe, but rather a sign of its strength. Having independent interests means that you have something unique to bring to conversations, ensuring that you both always have something interesting, and yes exciting, to say to one another.
2. Be spontaneous.

While routines are good, shake things up a bit by surprising your spouse on a romantic date once in a while.

3. Discuss things but don’t dig up the past.

Angry confrontations are good, since it allows one to vent, but never dig up past hurts.

4. Cultivate communication and openness in a marriage.

5. Spice things up in the bedroom.

Your sex life has a direct proportion with the strength and satisfaction of your relationship. So try exploring a new position or tell a sexual fantasy to your partner (who knows he might want to try it) or use adult toys like a rabbit vibrator, and in so doing share something intimate and bring some excitement into your marriage.

I got this great idea from the Tight Wad. It is often that married couples with kids fail to celebrate occasions like Valentine’s Day due to lack of time, money and people trustworthy to leave the kids alone with for a few hours. It is like searching for those hard to find samsung cell phone batteries. But you don’t have to spend so much to make Valentine’s Day meaningful:

Get out the tissues, this idea is really sappy… and just might hit the spot. Buy a pretty lined journal (that will appeal to your partner or they won’t use it) and write a romantic entry for your honey on the first page. You both can exchange it every so often with thoughts of gratitude, love and whatever thoughts you want to commit to paper. I know, right?

It may seem unfair at times, but keeping Christian marriage sex exciting and spontaneous between married couples depend more on the wives.

It may be hard to do it, especially when there are children in a marriage and running a household is stressful. But here are some tips:

1. Take care of yourself. This being said, wives should make great effort to look great for their husbands. Men are visual beings. It can be as simple as putting on his favorite cologne when he is going home from work, or putting some lipstick and freshening oneself up before going to bed.
2. Surprise your husband! Christian Lingerie, in his favorite color, can help spark things up in your bedroom.
3. Be open to using Christian Sexual Aids. They are there for a reason – to help make things better for you and your husband in the bedroom.